Marlene Winell's thoughts on responsibility

I ran across this expert in some notes today. I thought the idea of Embracing Freedom and Responsibility is a good ideal to pursue in 2015. Winell's Leaving the Fold is an excellent resource. I think that many would be helped by this even if they don't agree with all of Winell's points. It really helps those of us raised with very hard and fast rules to explore "normalcy" in a more positive light than just black and white thinking. I stayed so long in the confines of my prison, 'cause it was safer than figuring things out for myself.

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Katherine Stewart's "The Good News Club"

Put on your to-read list. I could not believe all the connections between organizations that I'm familiar with! For me, as interesting as the CEF's Good News Clubs are, most interesting are the connections of the heavy hitter "Christian Nationalists" behind the story of the Good News Clubs and especially the fall out of the US Supreme Court's ruling in Good News Clubs v. Milford Central School (2001). Page 251- 252, does not mention ACE, but it reads: "The campaign to remove children from public schools is quickly gathering steam. A substantial number of fundamentalist parents have already cast their votes silently, by bringing their children home. Between 1999 and 2007, homeschooling shot up by 74 percent, to over 1.5 million children, representing approximately 3 percent of all school-age children in the United States--a figure that is undoubtedly higher today. The largest part of that growth came from parents motivated by religious conce

1-28 of 104 Rational Maxims to Control Anxious Thinking

Dr. Albert Ellis: 104 Rational Maxims to Control My anxiousThinking . Copied from How To Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You (pages 190-205) Minimizing my absolutistic musts, shoulds, aughts, and demands and the irrational beliefs that go with them 1. I will watch my unconditional, absolutistic musts and change them into strong preferences, such as "I would very much like to do well and be approved by others, but I don't have to do so and my worth as a person doesn't depend on doing anything!" 2. I will watch my overgeneralizations and make them more concrete: "If I fail at something important, I won't always fail and may frequently succeed." 3. I will watch my awfulizing. "It's bad to lose out on something I really want, but it's not awful or horrible. There's a good chance I'll get it later, but if I never do, it is just very depriving. The earth will keep spinning! Life will go

I am

A copy of a post to my fellow gay fathers who journey with me. -------------------- Hello all. I'm doing pretty well. My partner is facing a concerning cancer diagnosis, and I keep doing my own internal work. I like to do exercises that spur my internal growth. Here is one that I found challenging and perhaps even helpful after taking some defenses down. I'd put the book down for a good while, and perhaps Blackwolf & Gina Jones' ideas on internal growth are not for all, but I felt a sense of triumph this morning, as I did some re-framing. In-spite of wading through considerable non-sense, I did tap into something that is real for me. (I tend not to read in this specific spiritual pop psychology genre. Far too often, for me, it has side-tracked me from facing reality as it is, and perhaps old mis-guided attempts at self-improvement did have a net benefit of helping me figure some things out. For my own reasons, harder sciences, better researched ideas, satisfy

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