Dr. Albert Ellis: 104 Rational Maxims to Control My anxiousThinking . Copied from How To Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You (pages 190-205) Minimizing my absolutistic musts, shoulds, aughts, and demands and the irrational beliefs that go with them 1. I will watch my unconditional, absolutistic musts and change them into strong preferences, such as "I would very much like to do well and be approved by others, but I don't have to do so and my worth as a person doesn't depend on doing anything!" 2. I will watch my overgeneralizations and make them more concrete: "If I fail at something important, I won't always fail and may frequently succeed." 3. I will watch my awfulizing. "It's bad to lose out on something I really want, but it's not awful or horrible. There's a good chance I'll get it later, but if I never do, it is just very dep...